As she promotes her upcoming romantic comedy Thalaivan Thalaivii with co-star Vijay Sethupathi, actor Nithya Menen has been opening up about her evolving views on love, relationships and societal expectations.

Appearing on The Ramya Show, Nithya delved into how her perceptions have changed over the years. In her younger days, Nithya said she believed deeply in the idea of finding a soulmate, driven in part by familial and cultural pressures that framed marriage as a necessary milestone. The absence of it, she admitted, used to feel like personal failure.

But time—and experience—has brought her perspective. Today, she sees both love and marriage not as mandatory goals but as possibilities she’s open to if they happen. Importantly, she’s just as content if they don’t.

“If it happens, great. If it doesn’t happen also, great. It doesn’t give me grief,” she shared that such outcomes no longer bring her sorrow or self-doubt.

Heartbreaks that healed, not harmed

In another candid conversation with SS Music, Nithya offered a raw and reflective look at her past relationships. She revealed that each one had ended in heartbreak, and yet, she harbours no regrets.

“I’ve been heartbroken every single time,” she said.

Those emotional setbacks, she said, became important lessons about human nature and her own expectations. Over time, she came to realise that the very ideas she was holding on to in love were flawed. This awareness, she acknowledged, is why she’s currently not in a relationship—and why she feels more grounded than ever.

Resisting pressure to conform

Addressing the societal urge to “settle down”, Nithya made it clear she won’t allow external expectations to dictate her choices. She pointed to industrialist Ratan Tata—who never married—as a reminder that fulfillment doesn’t always lie in traditional paths. For her, a life lived differently is equally valid. She believes choosing not to marry doesn’t diminish a person’s success or completeness.

In a world quick to romanticise companionship, Nithya Menen is crafting her own script—one that honours personal growth, emotional clarity and freedom from norms.