A Kerala wedding in Dallas: Couple ties knot with parents on video call
The Covid pandemic has taken a toll on everything literally. This year has been taxing for everyone particularly those who were planning to get hitched. The virus has put a hold to big fat weddings where family, relatives, and friends joyfully gather, enjoy the food and celebrations. Interestingly, the couples have found new ways of holy matrimony! One such was that of Abindas and Athira.
Abindas, a native of West Hill in Kozhikode and Athira, a resident of Vytila in Kochi, were to get married on May 27 in Kochi in the presence of their family and friends. However, the couple, both working in the US, was unable to fly back home due to the restrictions.
The families then decided to postpone the wedding to December 3, 2020. This plan was also disrupted as the US government issued an executive order that if an employee on work visa, travels outside the country, he/she will not be allowed entry back. Also, the families weighed in on the possibility of Covid pandemic not coming to an end by December.
And so, on July 11, Abin and Athira tied the knot in a Kerala style wedding at a Guruvayurappan temple at Dallas in Texas of USA, with both parents in Kerala and families witnessing it over video call. The total number of attendees of the function were below ten, just few friends. Even their relatives settled in US couldn’t travel to attend it.
“It was our parents’ idea. We wanted to do it in Kerala with everyone present. As it was a totally arranged marriage, we wanted the whole family and friends to share our happiness. However, things turned out this way,” Abin said.
At first when they told us to tie the knot here without them, we were upset. We had always imagined spending the day happily with family. We had booked and cancelled the auditorium, twice for the wedding. It was my brother Anoop who convinced us that it would be the better idea. Later, pondering over this, we gave in to everyone’s wishes, he added.
Abindas, son of Haridas and Satidevi, had got officially engaged to Athira, daughter of Praveen and Chitra Praveen, on February 7 at the TDM Hall at Ernakulam.
“We decided it in just one week. Now, thinking about it, everything was unbelievable. A Malayali from Thiruvananthapuram, Ravi Nair, at the Dallas temple helped us in making the wedding arrangements. There was no time for preparations or anything. But now we and our parents are happy,” Abin stated.
“We thought it would be better if they could get married and stay together instead being in two different places alone during this difficult times. Also there is uncertainty when they can travel back home. As much as we wanted to be part of their special day, we didn’t want them to spend days apart, indefinitely. First they were shocked and later they realised it would be better,” said Satidevi.
All preparations including the wedding attire was bought here. But what can be done when the situation turns out like this, she added.
“I am happy that they could buy a Kerala sari and mangalsutra for the function. Later a sadhya was also arranged for friends in their apartment. We held a puja at our home in Kozhikode during the muhurtam.”
The couple and families now hope they can arrange a reception at home when they return.